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Trust
Bust
by Ali Ashton
How come most
women can’t trust men?
It’s simple, given the facts, suspicions that
generally turn into realities, and constantly being toyed
with catches up with us.
For
instance I get crushes here and there, I guess you can call me
“boy crazy.” I
met a guy NBA All-Star weekend at the Block party in Buckhead.
Of course a guy that I get along with and have a great
time lives in Arizona and only here visiting.
(Not another out-of-towner!)
He came back to Atlanta a few weeks ago for work and to
visit the lovely and ever so charming woman he met.
;) We hung
out that Friday night and had a great time out on the town
dancing. I kept
the intimacy level at bay because I didn’t want to get
emotionally attached (again) to someone that didn’t live in
the same state! Been
there, done that! I
assumed he understood, but apparently he was expecting some
good old fashion southern whore-house charm.
Not it! We
spoke a few times throughout the rest of the weekend until he
left town and Wham…I haven’t heard from him since!
Good riddance I guess you could say.
I’m certainly not crying or losing sleep over it.
So
this typical scenario keeps me wondering what goes on with
men. Is it plain
lack of communication early on that the male can’t bring to
the girl’s attention that he isn’t interested?
Is it just easier not to call and feel on the spot in a
serious conversation? Can
men be serious and/or communicate?
Or are these slimeballs already in knee deep with their
next victim? Too
many questions and so little time!
Another
thing that chaps my hide is married men fraternizing with
other single women. What’s
the deal? I admit
I did have a huge crush on a married man not too long ago.
There’s always the curiosity of what could
happen with us and our friendship could
evolve into anything romantic.
Then I told myself to “Shut up!
This guy is married!”
In no way, shape or form will I become a homewrecker.
So I see this guy out at a nightclub dancing with a
really intoxicated girl and can’t help but think how far he
is going to take this! I
have already heard of him kissing a few girls I know, what
would he do with the new bait?
And
guys are still questioning why women are not trusting!
Good
points to bring up are two segments on Q100’s Bert Show in
the morning: “War of the Roses” and “Second Date
Update”. Women
are the majority of the callers asking the Bert Show to do
some dirty work and catch their husband or significant other
in the act of cheating. I
don’t know the solid statistic on the actual number of men
they catch, but I know it would be a discouraging figure.
So I am not the only woman feeling this way.
Numerous women in Atlanta feel jolted, jaded and
insecure with men not only this town but others as well.
We are given REASON to disbelieve!
So,
needless to say I am left frazzled and lacking trust with men.
In most cases I am a trustworthy person, but if there
is a hint of a relationship or a guy is complimenting me, I
question his intentions!
No matter what! A
compliment should be taken graciously and in this day and age
it really commences a deep doubting state in my mind.
I turn into the CIA just trying to discover what this
guy is after. How
awful is that?
So
for all the good guys out there, where are you hiding?
Can you or anyone please answer my questions and
explain the tricks of the trade with men?
I am dying to know if “good guys” do exist or are
they all snatched up by now.
-- Ali
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